Sex and sexuality is not a taboo in Christianity.
It is a gift.
And it’s not something we should be ashamed of. Even when people on ‘the other side’ try to weaponize it against us.
Let me be clear. I am not talking about promiscuity. I am talking about the life force. The fire God Himself placed within us.
And I am tired of seeing women turned into “bad Christians” because they dare to embrace their sexuality. As if holiness required women to make themselves smaller. Drier. More invisible.
That is not Christianity. That is control.
Sex is holy!
Not because it is neat, quiet and wrapped in modesty, but because it is one of the most intense ways two human beings can ever meet.
It is the only act in which two create life together with the Creator Himself. It is not a trifle. It is not a sin. It is a gateway.
To ask a woman to dampen her desire, suppress her fire, make herself less sexual in order to be “pious enough” - that is the same as asking her to dampen her life force. To put out what God lit. To cut into what He called good.
And here is what most overlook:
Taking full ownership of your sexual desire is not only about sex.
Sexual energy is the same energy that drives everything creative in a human being.
Used with care and deep awareness, it becomes an engine - a force to channel into the world all that God has placed in you to bring forth. Books. Movements. Children. Visions. The courage to say what no one else dares to say. The endurance to build what others give up on. The magnetism that makes people listen when you speak.
I say this because I know it.
I would never be where I am today if I had not, in full trust, surrendered to and owned my sexuality with everything it is and contains. And that is no small thing. It is not for anyone.
Because once you release what lies deep down in the darkness - all the raw power, all the longing, all the intensity we have been taught to be ashamed of - things rise to the surface that most cannot hold. Neither in themselves nor in others.
That is why they hold back. That is why they teach their daughters to do the same. That is why women are taught it is holier to be half than to be whole.
But when you suppress that force, you do not only suppress desire. You suppress the voice. The courage. The creative power. The ability to stand alone when it is required. The ability to love without losing yourself. You dim the fire God lit - and call it piety. It is not. It is amputation.
A woman who has shut down her sexuality has shut down her creative power. They are not two separate sources. They are one. The same fire that ignites healthy desire between man and woman is the fire that drives the artist, the prophet, the leader, the mother, the warrior.
Put out one end of the bonfire, and you lose the warmth in the whole house.
That is why the suppression of women’s sexuality has always been one of the most effective instruments of power in history. Not because women’s desire is dangerous to God, but because a woman who stands fully in her life force is dangerous to any system that lives off her being half.
“To be lifted up to God” are not empty words. It is not metaphor. It is what happens when two people meet in love, in surrender, in trust - and forget where they end and the other begins.
It is a sacrament without an altar. A prayer without words. A moment where flesh and spirit are no longer separate - because they were never meant to be.
God created us as body. He called it good. He gave us desire, not as a flaw to be repaired, but as a force to be lived - stewarded with the same seriousness as anything else that is holy.
Stop teaching women and our daughters that their desire is dangerous. Teach them that it is holy.
Teach them that it is fuel. And teach them to steward it with the dignity a gift from God deserves.
A whole woman is exactly what the Creator had in mind.❤️🔥🪽✝️