FEMINISM MADE WOMEN HER OWN GOD - AND CULTURE BECAME UNSTABLE ALL THE WAY UP
Feminism has taught us that women are powerful when they are career women. The title became the measure. The money, the position, the seat at the table. And many reached it.
But behind the success sits a large group of women who are lonely on the outside, or who slowly become lonely in their inner life.
We convinced women that they would find happiness in success, money and executive floors. But we ended up hollowing them out inside.
To understand why, you have to understand the feminine force. It is, among other things, full surrender. The ability to let go and receive, to rest in trust in something greater than herself. That is not weakness. It is a different kind of strength than the one men carry.
But a woman who is used to being in total control, and you have to be to reach the top, lives in masculine energy. The drive and the will to push through. Over time her identity grows together with the control. She never lets go.
And so surrender becomes dangerous to her, because letting go feels like losing control, and control is what she has learned to equate with strength, while surrender feels like weakness. So she does not dare.
That is why she will keep missing what surrender opens. Real intimacy. Being met and held for who she is, not for what she delivers. The rest of not having to hold everything up alone. The pleasure of daring to lean into another. She can be admired, respected, even desired from a distance. But she cannot receive it, because receiving requires her to lower her guard, and she will not.
It strikes the polarity to the man directly.
Attraction lives on polarity, on the tension between the masculine and the feminine pole. There has to be difference for there to be charge. When she stands firm in masculine energy, one of two things happens. Either she meets a man in the same energy, and then there are two identical poles with no spark. Or he unconsciously slips down into a softer, more passive role to make room for her, and then she loses her respect and desire for him, while at the same time she grows resentful at having to lead in everything.
She longs for a man she can trust enough to melt into. But she has made herself impossible to melt, and often built a life where such a man is never allowed to be present at all. So the relationship becomes a shared operation, a power struggle or a partnership over logistics. Not a desire between two poles.
On a deeper level, this is where modern, intersectional feminism has been toxic for our time. The early fight was about rights, about the vote and equal access. That was worth fighting for.
But the intersectional version does something else. It reads everything through power and oppression. It teaches women to see the man as an opponent, to distrust the very polarity that would nourish them, and to interpret devotion, motherhood and home as oppression rather than as feminine force. It cuts the woman loose from her own nature and tells her that nature is a prison.
And when you set women at war with their own longing on that scale, you get exactly the unrest we see now. Families that are not formed. Falling birth rates. An epidemic of loneliness. Men who are confused, demonised or fully withdrawn. The sexes at war instead of in interplay.
When the bond that carries and reproduces an entire society is turned into a battlefield, the culture becomes unstable all the way up.
This is also what happens when you remove the woman from God. Because surrender is spiritual at its root. It is the posture of the soul before God.
A woman who can surrender to God can surrender in love, can trust, can receive. Remove the vertical, the thing above her, and you remove the very thing she could let go down into.
But the modern story does not stop at removing God. It sets the woman herself in God’s place. You are enough. You are your own highest authority. Trust yourself above all else. She is made into the highest principle. And a person who is her own highest principle can never surrender, because there is nothing above her to surrender to. So she has to stay in control forever.
That is why the emptiness runs so deep. It is not just loneliness between people. It is a spiritual homelessness. She was made to be filled from above, and she has locked herself in by making herself the ceiling.
She placed herself at the top and called it strength. But that was where the cell closed around her. And the ceiling can only be lifted by the One she was taught to live without.